The theme this week is 'Red' in honor of the American heart association. With my family history of heart disease in the women, I have every reason to be aware!
Here is one of my reasons to take heart health seriously:
Monday, February 14, 2011
I Heart Faces
The theme this week is 'Red' in honor of the American heart association. With my family history of heart disease in the women, I have every reason to be aware!
Here is one of my reasons to take heart health seriously:
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Unbalanced Opinions
It really bothers me that when people are having what would seem to be a mild debate about an issue, people can get so unbalanced.
We tend to swing from one side of the pendulum to the other. We're so against one idea that instead of finding a medium point to stand at, we swing completely the other direction. Going from one extreme to the other.
And when someone disagrees with us, we lash out with unkind words. I say we, because I'm quite sure I've hurt feelings before, whether intentionally or not. I know I'm not always level headed and rash when I am discussing topics that I feel strongly about.
But it is truly frustrating on days like today, when I felt I was being sincere and polite, to be attacked, simply because I have a different opinion. It is especially frustrating when it comes from people wanting to be so 'progressive' and 'tolerant'. How is it tolerance when you attack me for believing something different?
Today, because I don't support uncovered nursing in public (as a rule)- my marriage was attacked, my morals were attacked, and I was told I have a 'tainted mind'.
It hurts, because even if you think you are spreading truth and freedom, it is coming in such an unattractive package. I would not want to embrace anything offered in such a way.
Now it is my job not to be affected by this by swinging even more to the extreme side of the pendulum.
My thoughts on NIP: cover up out of courtesy when possible. Not because breastfeeding is bad or sexual and should be hidden. Whether or not YOU personally have a problem with seeing women's breasts, it is an issue in our culture. Just because you want something to be different, doesn't make it so. Even if every nursing mother started to NIP without a cover, culture would not change that quickly.
In my opinion, it doesn't hurt your baby to nurse under a cover. If your baby has a hard time doing that because of other issues, you're probably not going to be out in public anyway. If you're a new mom learning to breastfeed, probably a similar issue. I practiced at home A LOT, before I ever felt comfortable nursing in public, and it had nothing to do with being covered or not.
Am I saying I think you're a terrible person if you ever expose your breast? No. Babies pull blankets down, wind blows... things happen. But I think it really can just be considered common courtesy to cover up.
To say you don't want to cover up just for someone else's convenience is like saying anything is acceptable if your own morals are satisfied. If I want to banish breasts being viewed as sexual attributes and don't have a moral issue with it, should I be allowed to go anywhere without top? What if I did that around your 10yr old son?
Again, this is all just my opinion. Yes, I think it has moral grounds (Mark 12:31, 1 Cor 8:9), but I don't condemn anyone who believes differently. This really isn't a battleground to die on and I won't treat it as such.
*In reference to the 1 Cor verse, yes, the context is eating food sacrificed to idols, but I think the principle is godly none-the-less*
We tend to swing from one side of the pendulum to the other. We're so against one idea that instead of finding a medium point to stand at, we swing completely the other direction. Going from one extreme to the other.
And when someone disagrees with us, we lash out with unkind words. I say we, because I'm quite sure I've hurt feelings before, whether intentionally or not. I know I'm not always level headed and rash when I am discussing topics that I feel strongly about.
But it is truly frustrating on days like today, when I felt I was being sincere and polite, to be attacked, simply because I have a different opinion. It is especially frustrating when it comes from people wanting to be so 'progressive' and 'tolerant'. How is it tolerance when you attack me for believing something different?
Today, because I don't support uncovered nursing in public (as a rule)- my marriage was attacked, my morals were attacked, and I was told I have a 'tainted mind'.
It hurts, because even if you think you are spreading truth and freedom, it is coming in such an unattractive package. I would not want to embrace anything offered in such a way.
Now it is my job not to be affected by this by swinging even more to the extreme side of the pendulum.
My thoughts on NIP: cover up out of courtesy when possible. Not because breastfeeding is bad or sexual and should be hidden. Whether or not YOU personally have a problem with seeing women's breasts, it is an issue in our culture. Just because you want something to be different, doesn't make it so. Even if every nursing mother started to NIP without a cover, culture would not change that quickly.
In my opinion, it doesn't hurt your baby to nurse under a cover. If your baby has a hard time doing that because of other issues, you're probably not going to be out in public anyway. If you're a new mom learning to breastfeed, probably a similar issue. I practiced at home A LOT, before I ever felt comfortable nursing in public, and it had nothing to do with being covered or not.
Am I saying I think you're a terrible person if you ever expose your breast? No. Babies pull blankets down, wind blows... things happen. But I think it really can just be considered common courtesy to cover up.
To say you don't want to cover up just for someone else's convenience is like saying anything is acceptable if your own morals are satisfied. If I want to banish breasts being viewed as sexual attributes and don't have a moral issue with it, should I be allowed to go anywhere without top? What if I did that around your 10yr old son?
Again, this is all just my opinion. Yes, I think it has moral grounds (Mark 12:31, 1 Cor 8:9), but I don't condemn anyone who believes differently. This really isn't a battleground to die on and I won't treat it as such.
*In reference to the 1 Cor verse, yes, the context is eating food sacrificed to idols, but I think the principle is godly none-the-less*
Monday, October 18, 2010
Safe Place
What do you do when your 'safe place', is so far away?
Athan is my safe place, my safe person. I can tell him anything and know he will listen and not condemn. He will not judge. If needed, he'll speak truth to me. But he gives me time to process out loud first, something I desperately need.
But while he's gone, the most I can do is send him an email. And hope he has a chance to read it before too many days go by. And then has time to call me.
It's so hard, when I feel so much like I need someone to talk to. I don't feel like I can share these issues with friends, even close friends, because it involves other people and I don't want to slander or gossip.
Praying Athan can call me tonight... I desperately need it. I'm ready to hightail it back to SC right now. But I know that would be hard too.
Athan is my safe place, my safe person. I can tell him anything and know he will listen and not condemn. He will not judge. If needed, he'll speak truth to me. But he gives me time to process out loud first, something I desperately need.
But while he's gone, the most I can do is send him an email. And hope he has a chance to read it before too many days go by. And then has time to call me.
It's so hard, when I feel so much like I need someone to talk to. I don't feel like I can share these issues with friends, even close friends, because it involves other people and I don't want to slander or gossip.
Praying Athan can call me tonight... I desperately need it. I'm ready to hightail it back to SC right now. But I know that would be hard too.
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